Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Friday, February 28, 2014
Missionary Musings :: thoughts from the road.
My closest friend is fluent in any number of languages. It seems the grand total changes from week to week, "Oh, my Korean is worse than my Estonian - which is really pretty awful" he prattles away during a break from his language lessons. His goal is to know a double-digit number of languages - more than a dozen, at least. He's Ukrainian, so this view isn't really seen as bizarre or special - probably half of my friends speak a set of four standard languages and one additional obscure language.
I'm terrible at languages. I failed out of Spanish class in middle school, muddled my way through German in High school, held to the bare minimum assignments in French throughout college, and learned conversational Russian and Ukrainian along the way. By American standards, I am a linguist and a polyglot. By Ukrainian standards, I'm adorable for trying.
When I returned to Lviv to serve full time, it became clear that I was going to have to buckle down and force myself to learn Ukrianian. My closest friend and I spent an entire month having lessons whenever I felt like it. If I was awake and ready to learn at 1 AM, a lesson commenced at 1 AM. I'm a miserable learner and I spent the entire month angry and bitter at the Ukrainian language. I'm not proud of my behavior during language lessons. I throw tantrums. It's really embarrassing. Over time, we have learned that I need extremely difficult lessons for 15 minutes at a time and then a cool off period. This is real. I wish I was joking, and that - like a normal person - I could just sit down, study, and then speak a foreign language.
It was during one of the darkest days of that January, when I was mentally and emotionally exhausted from language acquisition that my closest friend explained to me why he loved learning languages so much. He told me, "I believe that God fully revealed himself through the world's languages. Every time we learn a new language, we learn a little bit more about God's character." And I think he's right.
Every language has a little bit of God to add to the world.
Until you speak the language and grasp at least that much of the culture, you have very little to add to the conversation. You can listen, you can be present, you can pray - and these are HUGE aspects of mission. But, if you intend to join the conversation and challenge injustice and offer Christ through proclamation - language is a necessity.
I was being rushed to the hospital when I said my first sentence in Russian. My friend's father was driving, and trying to buckle my seat belt while swerving through the streets of our small Russian city. I looked at him and I said, "Ya saam." I can do it myself. We had learned it just a few days before, but this was honestly the first time I had ever said two words together in Russian - and a complete sentence none the less! As my foot swelled two sizes too big, my smile swelled, too. I was so proud of that sentence. The next day, as I hobbled on my crutches, a teacher's husband stopped me on the streets and asked, "Kak naga?" How is your leg? I answered "harasho"- good. It was my first full conversation.
But what I remember most strongly about these two conversations was the incredible sense that I had spoken to Russian people for the first time. Now - my host-brother had valiantly translated everything for me for two weeks by this point, but at this moment there was something deeper and more beautiful. It was like the connection was truly mine.
It was the first time I saw the beauty and brilliance of languages.
Two nights ago, I was coming home at about 10 at night. A neighbor stopped me on the street and invited me to her house for tea. Lyuba is probably older than my mother, but not by much. She started the conversation in broken English, and exhaled an audible sigh of relief when I responded in Ukrainian. We drank tea and talked for more than an hour. We told jokes, we talked about politics, and we talked about family:
"My boys were on the Maidan during the days of violence. They both went, just to give their mother more to worry about. The older one has a five year old son, and I said to him - 'You can't go, you have a child to take care of.' and he told me, 'Mom, that's why I'm going.' I cried so hard I thought I would die. I just sat at the TV and cried while I watched everything. I cried even harder when they came home to me."
I told her about how much I've made my mom cry during this revolution - and apparently sons acting this way is a universal.
When I left, I told her that I thought most of the neighbors were afraid of me because they rarely speak to me. She told me, "Well, once they find out from me that you speak Ukrainian, they're all going to want to talk to you - so get ready."
Language is connection. Language is life. Language is mission.
I'm terrible at languages. I failed out of Spanish class in middle school, muddled my way through German in High school, held to the bare minimum assignments in French throughout college, and learned conversational Russian and Ukrainian along the way. By American standards, I am a linguist and a polyglot. By Ukrainian standards, I'm adorable for trying.
When I returned to Lviv to serve full time, it became clear that I was going to have to buckle down and force myself to learn Ukrianian. My closest friend and I spent an entire month having lessons whenever I felt like it. If I was awake and ready to learn at 1 AM, a lesson commenced at 1 AM. I'm a miserable learner and I spent the entire month angry and bitter at the Ukrainian language. I'm not proud of my behavior during language lessons. I throw tantrums. It's really embarrassing. Over time, we have learned that I need extremely difficult lessons for 15 minutes at a time and then a cool off period. This is real. I wish I was joking, and that - like a normal person - I could just sit down, study, and then speak a foreign language.
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| Nazar getting swallowed by the giant chair before speaking to a large membership church. |
It was during one of the darkest days of that January, when I was mentally and emotionally exhausted from language acquisition that my closest friend explained to me why he loved learning languages so much. He told me, "I believe that God fully revealed himself through the world's languages. Every time we learn a new language, we learn a little bit more about God's character." And I think he's right.
Every language has a little bit of God to add to the world.
Until you speak the language and grasp at least that much of the culture, you have very little to add to the conversation. You can listen, you can be present, you can pray - and these are HUGE aspects of mission. But, if you intend to join the conversation and challenge injustice and offer Christ through proclamation - language is a necessity.
I was being rushed to the hospital when I said my first sentence in Russian. My friend's father was driving, and trying to buckle my seat belt while swerving through the streets of our small Russian city. I looked at him and I said, "Ya saam." I can do it myself. We had learned it just a few days before, but this was honestly the first time I had ever said two words together in Russian - and a complete sentence none the less! As my foot swelled two sizes too big, my smile swelled, too. I was so proud of that sentence. The next day, as I hobbled on my crutches, a teacher's husband stopped me on the streets and asked, "Kak naga?" How is your leg? I answered "harasho"- good. It was my first full conversation.
But what I remember most strongly about these two conversations was the incredible sense that I had spoken to Russian people for the first time. Now - my host-brother had valiantly translated everything for me for two weeks by this point, but at this moment there was something deeper and more beautiful. It was like the connection was truly mine.
It was the first time I saw the beauty and brilliance of languages.
Two nights ago, I was coming home at about 10 at night. A neighbor stopped me on the street and invited me to her house for tea. Lyuba is probably older than my mother, but not by much. She started the conversation in broken English, and exhaled an audible sigh of relief when I responded in Ukrainian. We drank tea and talked for more than an hour. We told jokes, we talked about politics, and we talked about family:
"My boys were on the Maidan during the days of violence. They both went, just to give their mother more to worry about. The older one has a five year old son, and I said to him - 'You can't go, you have a child to take care of.' and he told me, 'Mom, that's why I'm going.' I cried so hard I thought I would die. I just sat at the TV and cried while I watched everything. I cried even harder when they came home to me."
I told her about how much I've made my mom cry during this revolution - and apparently sons acting this way is a universal.
When I left, I told her that I thought most of the neighbors were afraid of me because they rarely speak to me. She told me, "Well, once they find out from me that you speak Ukrainian, they're all going to want to talk to you - so get ready."
Language is connection. Language is life. Language is mission.
Friday, February 21, 2014
Pain and Hope.
Tomorrow morning people that I love and care for deeply will join together for the funeral of fallen heroes. They will cry for their friend, lecturer, neighbor, brother, or son. Some of our Pilgrims were close with the lecturer from the Catholic University. One of my good friends sat with her classmates in grief after hearing the news that their friend had died.
On the second night of the revolution, long before anyone had begun calling it a revolution, Ihor Kalynets stepped up to the microphone to speak. He is a 75 year old widower and a tremendous poet and patriot. He begged the students not to listen to politicians nor the press - but to follow their conscience and their hearts. He told them - us - that we would find our own path. I don't think Ihor ever set out to be a revolutionary. His wife was arrested first (in 1972) and sentenced to six years of hard labor - and he really didn't have a choice after that, did he? He was arrested six months later and sentenced to nine years in a forced labor camp.
I don't think any of these young men wanted to be revolutionaries. Too many of the dead are young fathers. Revolutionaries are young and unattached - but many of these men were fathers, they fought for their children. They fought so that their children could live in a normal country and have a government that works for them instead of the other way around. They fought because they were secretly and illegally baptized and they never wanted their children to experience the lack of freedom of religion. They fought because the president had blood on his hands and no apology on his heart.
I don't know a lot about Ukrainian culture. I've only lived here 3 short years, and I don't how much longer I'll get to live here - but I'll tell you what I know: sixty years from now a grandmother will tell her grandchildren of the valiant struggle and the names of these fallen heroes. Can you name someone who died on 9/11? Americans don't forgive, but we forget awfully fast. Ukrainians don't forget. They will pass these names from generation to generation.
We only know the names of about half of the dead. Slowly pictures and names emerge on the internet. More than 50 people are in intensive care in Kyiv hospitals, it is likely that the death toll will continue to climb.
I remember that night, after Kalynets stepped away from the microphone someone began chanting "rev-o-lut-si-a" and as I heard the chants of "revolution" my ears could hardly believe it. My students and friends surrounded me and they were chanting too - and soon enough, I joined them.
I never followed politics in Ukraine. There are too many surnames and they all mix together. For a project I asked my best friend if I could interview his grandmother - I wanted to hear about her life and her work. She agreed and I thought that I would start with a softball question. I asked her to tell me about a happy memory from her childhood. She said, "I don't have any happy memories from my childhood. My father was arrested when I was quite young and my mother and I were persecuted from that day on. I only saw my mother twice after that. She was forced to work on a beet farm and she was grating beets when I saw her last - I didn't know where the red of the beets ended and the red of her own blood began."
I'll never forget those words. I talked with my friend later and he told me that I should follow the political situation - starting with the history. The history was painful and gruesome, but I couldn't live here and be present here fully if I didn't know it.
I stood on the Maidan with our students because I weighed both sides, and I understood that I must stand with the side of freedom and democracy. I took a rather active view, and perhaps because of this I will have visa issues in the future. But every day, I get up and I can look myself in the mirror knowing that I did the right thing. The death of these young people has been tragic, but had the Ukrainian people remained silent they would have become slaves to a totalitarian regime - I believe this with all of my heart.
The Maidan in Kyiv might be covered with blood and ash and soot - but it is also covered in hope. The people have fought for their own dignity, freedom, and future. This is what democracy looks like - it is bloody and ugly and painful, but it is free.
I believe that Yanukovych is in his final hours and that soon a new democracy will be formed. Our primary goals will be healing of wounds, forgiving enemies, and building one country together - and I say "our" because the whole world will have to help. We must invest in this great country and help it to move forward as a European nation. We must share the story of the brave little country that fought to oust criminals from leadership. We must tell our grandchildren the names of these young men who died for freedom.
There is pain, but there is also hope.
And hope, like heroes, never dies.
On the second night of the revolution, long before anyone had begun calling it a revolution, Ihor Kalynets stepped up to the microphone to speak. He is a 75 year old widower and a tremendous poet and patriot. He begged the students not to listen to politicians nor the press - but to follow their conscience and their hearts. He told them - us - that we would find our own path. I don't think Ihor ever set out to be a revolutionary. His wife was arrested first (in 1972) and sentenced to six years of hard labor - and he really didn't have a choice after that, did he? He was arrested six months later and sentenced to nine years in a forced labor camp.
I don't think any of these young men wanted to be revolutionaries. Too many of the dead are young fathers. Revolutionaries are young and unattached - but many of these men were fathers, they fought for their children. They fought so that their children could live in a normal country and have a government that works for them instead of the other way around. They fought because they were secretly and illegally baptized and they never wanted their children to experience the lack of freedom of religion. They fought because the president had blood on his hands and no apology on his heart.
I don't know a lot about Ukrainian culture. I've only lived here 3 short years, and I don't how much longer I'll get to live here - but I'll tell you what I know: sixty years from now a grandmother will tell her grandchildren of the valiant struggle and the names of these fallen heroes. Can you name someone who died on 9/11? Americans don't forgive, but we forget awfully fast. Ukrainians don't forget. They will pass these names from generation to generation.
We only know the names of about half of the dead. Slowly pictures and names emerge on the internet. More than 50 people are in intensive care in Kyiv hospitals, it is likely that the death toll will continue to climb.
I remember that night, after Kalynets stepped away from the microphone someone began chanting "rev-o-lut-si-a" and as I heard the chants of "revolution" my ears could hardly believe it. My students and friends surrounded me and they were chanting too - and soon enough, I joined them.
I never followed politics in Ukraine. There are too many surnames and they all mix together. For a project I asked my best friend if I could interview his grandmother - I wanted to hear about her life and her work. She agreed and I thought that I would start with a softball question. I asked her to tell me about a happy memory from her childhood. She said, "I don't have any happy memories from my childhood. My father was arrested when I was quite young and my mother and I were persecuted from that day on. I only saw my mother twice after that. She was forced to work on a beet farm and she was grating beets when I saw her last - I didn't know where the red of the beets ended and the red of her own blood began."
I'll never forget those words. I talked with my friend later and he told me that I should follow the political situation - starting with the history. The history was painful and gruesome, but I couldn't live here and be present here fully if I didn't know it.
I stood on the Maidan with our students because I weighed both sides, and I understood that I must stand with the side of freedom and democracy. I took a rather active view, and perhaps because of this I will have visa issues in the future. But every day, I get up and I can look myself in the mirror knowing that I did the right thing. The death of these young people has been tragic, but had the Ukrainian people remained silent they would have become slaves to a totalitarian regime - I believe this with all of my heart.
The Maidan in Kyiv might be covered with blood and ash and soot - but it is also covered in hope. The people have fought for their own dignity, freedom, and future. This is what democracy looks like - it is bloody and ugly and painful, but it is free.
I believe that Yanukovych is in his final hours and that soon a new democracy will be formed. Our primary goals will be healing of wounds, forgiving enemies, and building one country together - and I say "our" because the whole world will have to help. We must invest in this great country and help it to move forward as a European nation. We must share the story of the brave little country that fought to oust criminals from leadership. We must tell our grandchildren the names of these young men who died for freedom.
There is pain, but there is also hope.
And hope, like heroes, never dies.
Monday, January 13, 2014
Missionary musings :: thoughts from the road
Grandma Airgood would sit and listen to the police scanner all day. The white noise interrupted by intermittent blasts of static-y voices would compete against the blaring television to see who could portray a scarier version of life. We would sit as a family and watch 9-1-1 Emergency and pause it only when the scanner beeped. As the screeches droned forth from the little box, I realized that there were codes I didn't understand - codes that grandma knew by heart. I was very young and I didn't recognize the street names, but grandma did. With each announcement from the scanner, grandma would call out the name of a friend or family member who lived near that place or might be near that place and what had happened to them. Like the most realistic game of Clue, she would call "Sam, dead in a house fire" or - "That's Sharol - she is driving in that neighborhood right now."
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| Grandma Airgood in the 1970s with cousin Kim |
This was in the days before cell phones - so we would sit together huddled around the little black prophet box and wait for more news or for our nearly-departed to swing open the screen door and enter back into our lives.
At five or six, my very frail grandfather and I were playing hide and seek. I pushed up against the basement door, and as it swung open I fell down the basement steps. I landed on the hard concrete at the bottom. The last words I heard before passing out were my grandmother's: "He's dead. People die from falls like that."
As an Airgood, I must constantly battle the negativity monster. For every positive thought that I have, I have three negative ones. I'm constantly filled with judgement for those who are less than me and contempt for those who are better than me. My first thought on any topic is usually negative. I naturally assume that failure will be the order of the day.
Some days I conquer the negativity monster, some days I cower in terror from it. For me, the single greatest challenge I face is finding that the negativity monster should have won. When I trust someone and they disappoint me it can be devastating - because deep down I always believed they would hurt me.
When Corrie Ten Boom sat in prison cells for her crime of saving Jewish lives, her sister Nollie signed every letter from the outside - Christ is Victor. Her other sister, Betsie, died in Ravensbruck death camp - Betsie often told Corrie that "There is no pit so deep that God is not deeper still."
I have tremendous adoration for these saints who can see only good. Corrie writes that after her sister's face had been slit open by the whip of a Nazi commander, her sister said, "Don't look at it - only look at Jesus."
I love these people, but I'm not one of them.
My mentor in college told me once that for Jesus there were three tomb days and one resurrection day - and that we shouldn't expect better odds than that. My mentor chose a Tuesday morning class when half the students had skipped to share the story of great tragedy and loss in his life. It was deeply personal and we all cried with him. When he and I had lunch later that day, he told me that he didn't even have a photograph to remember her by, because they had all been stolen over the years. Three times thieves broke into his house, backed a moving truck up to the window, and carted every item out of the house. His Peruvian neighbors all just assumed that the "gringo" was moving out. On three different occasions, every last scrap of paper in his home was stolen. It was on this Tuesday that he told me about tomb days and resurrection days.
I don't trust Christians who seem to have too many resurrection days, or, rather, I don't trust Christians who don't spend any time in the tomb.
Itineration is an important part of missionary service. I love itinerating - I love visiting churches and meeting the people who support me. But itineration is hard. I never lie while I'm talking at churches.* But I obviously focus on the resurrection days a good bit more than the tomb days. This is just a fact of life for missionaries.
Kathy Clark and I pulled up to the church in her little car. Rev Clark had volunteered to drive me around as I itinerated and she pulled her balled-up alb out of the back seat just in case she needed it - and we went inside. I had just been diagnosed with Lyme's Disease, and my whole body ached. I preached at three services at three different locations, and I was doing pretty well. My hands were pulling up into fists because of the arthritis, and my left foot was a club - but I was determined to make it through all three services. I'm an active preacher, and at one point - for God knows what reason - I got down on one knee. I tried to stand up, but I was frozen. If I wanted to stand, I was going to have to put all of my weight on my left foot. For a minute, I thought I was going to have to stop and have Kathy Clark pull me back up. I pulled myself up by swiveling around at the same time so no one would see me wince in pain. It had been a hard year. My community had faced tragedy. I had been abused and harmed by people that I love and by people who didn't even know me. I stepped on that foot and I felt all the pain and all the hurt and my whole face and body contorted into a ghastly grimace - and I knew that in just a moment I would have to turn around and smile at these nice people.
And I did it. And I finished the sermon. And during the prayer time, the pastor announced that I had Lyme Disease and everyone sympathetically gasped which is apparently the appropriate reaction.
And after the service, the older lady who headed up the mission committee invited Kathy and me out to lunch. It was buffet style, and at one point, she turned to Kathy and said, "My husband and I used to come here every Sunday. This is the first time I've been here since he died." She started to cry and Kathy comforted her. Kathy shared something from her life. And then I started sharing about what had happened. I told them about all the muck that our community had waded through, and I got very personal and very real. I told them about putting my weight on my left foot. And we sat together and we were very real with each other. We all shared each other's burdens and it was beautiful.
It made me happy just to share life together with other Christians. I didn't have to put on the missionary face and highly edit what I shared and what I kept to myself. I'm not very good at wearing the missionary face, and that's probably for the best.
Some days I conquer the negativity monster, some days I cower in terror from it. For me, the single greatest challenge I face is finding that the negativity monster should have won. When I trust someone and they disappoint me it can be devastating - because deep down I always believed they would hurt me.
When Corrie Ten Boom sat in prison cells for her crime of saving Jewish lives, her sister Nollie signed every letter from the outside - Christ is Victor. Her other sister, Betsie, died in Ravensbruck death camp - Betsie often told Corrie that "There is no pit so deep that God is not deeper still."
I have tremendous adoration for these saints who can see only good. Corrie writes that after her sister's face had been slit open by the whip of a Nazi commander, her sister said, "Don't look at it - only look at Jesus."
I love these people, but I'm not one of them.
My mentor in college told me once that for Jesus there were three tomb days and one resurrection day - and that we shouldn't expect better odds than that. My mentor chose a Tuesday morning class when half the students had skipped to share the story of great tragedy and loss in his life. It was deeply personal and we all cried with him. When he and I had lunch later that day, he told me that he didn't even have a photograph to remember her by, because they had all been stolen over the years. Three times thieves broke into his house, backed a moving truck up to the window, and carted every item out of the house. His Peruvian neighbors all just assumed that the "gringo" was moving out. On three different occasions, every last scrap of paper in his home was stolen. It was on this Tuesday that he told me about tomb days and resurrection days.
I don't trust Christians who seem to have too many resurrection days, or, rather, I don't trust Christians who don't spend any time in the tomb.
Itineration is an important part of missionary service. I love itinerating - I love visiting churches and meeting the people who support me. But itineration is hard. I never lie while I'm talking at churches.* But I obviously focus on the resurrection days a good bit more than the tomb days. This is just a fact of life for missionaries.
Kathy Clark and I pulled up to the church in her little car. Rev Clark had volunteered to drive me around as I itinerated and she pulled her balled-up alb out of the back seat just in case she needed it - and we went inside. I had just been diagnosed with Lyme's Disease, and my whole body ached. I preached at three services at three different locations, and I was doing pretty well. My hands were pulling up into fists because of the arthritis, and my left foot was a club - but I was determined to make it through all three services. I'm an active preacher, and at one point - for God knows what reason - I got down on one knee. I tried to stand up, but I was frozen. If I wanted to stand, I was going to have to put all of my weight on my left foot. For a minute, I thought I was going to have to stop and have Kathy Clark pull me back up. I pulled myself up by swiveling around at the same time so no one would see me wince in pain. It had been a hard year. My community had faced tragedy. I had been abused and harmed by people that I love and by people who didn't even know me. I stepped on that foot and I felt all the pain and all the hurt and my whole face and body contorted into a ghastly grimace - and I knew that in just a moment I would have to turn around and smile at these nice people.
And I did it. And I finished the sermon. And during the prayer time, the pastor announced that I had Lyme Disease and everyone sympathetically gasped which is apparently the appropriate reaction.
And after the service, the older lady who headed up the mission committee invited Kathy and me out to lunch. It was buffet style, and at one point, she turned to Kathy and said, "My husband and I used to come here every Sunday. This is the first time I've been here since he died." She started to cry and Kathy comforted her. Kathy shared something from her life. And then I started sharing about what had happened. I told them about all the muck that our community had waded through, and I got very personal and very real. I told them about putting my weight on my left foot. And we sat together and we were very real with each other. We all shared each other's burdens and it was beautiful.
It made me happy just to share life together with other Christians. I didn't have to put on the missionary face and highly edit what I shared and what I kept to myself. I'm not very good at wearing the missionary face, and that's probably for the best.
One of the biggest problems that missionaries face is the expectation of maintaining a perfect exterior. I don't know why we fall for it - but we do. We believe that people have to see us as super Christians. And maybe our faith is extraordinary. By no choice of our own, we often find ourselves in situations where reliance on God is the only option. Maybe over time our capacity to receive grace grows. Maybe we are energized by being around so many faithful people after a long time of slowly trudging along in the jungle alone and it just seems that we are super Christians.
If you have read the private letters of Mother Teresa, you have a pretty clear idea of the sense of emptiness and loneliness that often accompanies missionary service. If you haven't, maybe it's easier to believe that missionaries are super-human faith balloons - that just keep getting pumped up more and more. This is not the truth. We are embers that have fallen out of the fireplace - the lucky among us find other embers or start a new fire to keep our glow. But many never have that chance. Many of us burn out.
Olya showed up at our student center one day and we talked for a bit - she was a bit loud and dressed like a hipster. A few days later I was in Kyiv and saw Olya with a group of her friends and was introduced to everyone. Nazar was shy and quite and nothing like Olya. I met both of my best friends in Ukraine within three days of each other. I had lived in Ukraine for months before I met them. I was an ember just about to fade away when they came into my life. Their bright faith and riotous laughter sustained me through some dark days. I'm truly blessed, to call Ukrainians best friends. I lived in Korea for seven months without even making an acquaintance to call my own. To have two Ukrainian friends who would do anything for me is more precious than anything in my life. They held me accountable to learning Ukrainian, held me up when I was down, and held me together when my world came crashing down. I owe so much of my life and ministry to them - and I thank God every day for putting such wonderful friends in my life.
This is life.
I think this is what is so often missing from the missionary narrative. Missionaries must live. They need to have honest friendships and fun and messes and pain. They need to sit around a table with people in whom they can trust and share deep pain. They need to hold hands at the train station before saying goodbye. They need to love and be loved. Missionaries are human.
We are all human.
If you have read the private letters of Mother Teresa, you have a pretty clear idea of the sense of emptiness and loneliness that often accompanies missionary service. If you haven't, maybe it's easier to believe that missionaries are super-human faith balloons - that just keep getting pumped up more and more. This is not the truth. We are embers that have fallen out of the fireplace - the lucky among us find other embers or start a new fire to keep our glow. But many never have that chance. Many of us burn out.
Olya showed up at our student center one day and we talked for a bit - she was a bit loud and dressed like a hipster. A few days later I was in Kyiv and saw Olya with a group of her friends and was introduced to everyone. Nazar was shy and quite and nothing like Olya. I met both of my best friends in Ukraine within three days of each other. I had lived in Ukraine for months before I met them. I was an ember just about to fade away when they came into my life. Their bright faith and riotous laughter sustained me through some dark days. I'm truly blessed, to call Ukrainians best friends. I lived in Korea for seven months without even making an acquaintance to call my own. To have two Ukrainian friends who would do anything for me is more precious than anything in my life. They held me accountable to learning Ukrainian, held me up when I was down, and held me together when my world came crashing down. I owe so much of my life and ministry to them - and I thank God every day for putting such wonderful friends in my life.
This is life.
I think this is what is so often missing from the missionary narrative. Missionaries must live. They need to have honest friendships and fun and messes and pain. They need to sit around a table with people in whom they can trust and share deep pain. They need to hold hands at the train station before saying goodbye. They need to love and be loved. Missionaries are human.
We are all human.
*I am very thankful that I serve in the United Methodist Church with the General Board of Global Ministries. I don't have to raise a dime of my salary. When I'm fundraising - I'm raising money for the next kid who comes along. There is no pressure to raise money. Many of my missionary friends in other denominations had to raise their full support before they could even go to the field - many still have thousands of dollars left to raise before they can go. This is a tragedy, truly.
Wednesday, January 8, 2014
Missionary musings :: thoughts from the road.
I knew he was stoned from the first words of the conversation. "Dude, you totally have to watch Inception. No, like, totally, have a bowl and watch Inception." The marijuana was medicinal, his chemo kept hunger far from his mind and he was wasting away to nothing. The pot brought pounds to his body and quality to his life. I bought a bottle of liquor on the day he died and only one friend yelled at me for drinking most of it that day.
I don't think that any missionary training class prepares you for the death of a loved one.
I remember visiting a church to hear a missionary speak once, and this was years after I had committed my life to serving the Lord somewhere without air-condition (oh, little did I know at the time, how worthless air-condition could be) but years before I had actually gone - and I remember realizing, as I entered this particular church for the first time, that I could pick out the missionary. He was the most spiritual one there. He was the one bouncing in his pew and clapping his way through every song. His slide show was predictably missionary-esque and sported more than a hundred photos of "this is also the jungle." This was the first time that I grew emotionally uncomfortable with the term missionary - it hasn't been the last.
Every time I have witnessed "missionary compounds" high on the hill over the unwashed masses, I have felt a pang of shame at the M-word. Every time my place of privilege has opened a door, I wonder if I am doing the right thing by going through it. Every time a well-intentioned old woman asks me if I have to learn Ukrainian because "they can't speak English there?" I cringe. Missionary math exists and is a real thing, which is real.
I am a child of the King, but I was also raised by the Empire - and it is hard to remember this sometimes. It's a never ending Kramer vs. Kramer situation, really. My value system has to come from somewhere, right? I was taught that drinking alcohol is a sin, but clearly this isn't what the Bible says - so I take great precaution in accepting "biblical truths literally" but I see the way that "liberal academic scholarship" just wrings the life out of faith. As a red-headed step child of the empire, I must be especially careful about the way I treat wealth, military power, colonization, sin-scales, and skin-color. As a missionary, I need a constant reminder that God's kingdom and the empire I come from are not one-and-the-same.
In my college days, I read a number of biographies of missionaries. My favorite was about the ministry of my French tutors and friends. The Schultz's went into the jungle in the 1950s and grew old and unfashionable there. Janine emerged some decades later still wearing the same wool skirt she entered in. John only had hair on his ears when they returned to the states. I loved their biography, because it exuded the same humility that they did. John never boasted about his fluency in seven languages. Janine just pardoned my French constantly in class, and loved me in spite of myself.
I read another missionary biography once. It was filled with hubris and pride. It was a painful read. No one was as satisfied with this missionaries' righteousness and accomplishments as he was. He unnecessarily risked the lives of his wife and children on multiple occasions - refusing the convenient travel arraigned by his mission board and eventually being air-rescued by the military; he proudly boasted that God's will was done.
Mother Teresa constantly insisted that she was God's littlest. Every time that someone lifts up "missionary" as something special and hyper-spiritual, I want to look them in the eyes. I want them to see how painful it can be to live as a missionary. I want them to see how ordinary I am. I want them to see how helpless I am. I want them to see how much I struggle with faith - with the very concept of faith - every day. I want them to see me - not some stone statue saint on a pedestal - but me - just Michael, little Michael who crawled on his belly under all of the pews during worship, big Michael who can't ever seem to conjugate anything right and always talks like he's speaking around a Big Mac. I'm so little and flawed and lost.
When my friend was in his final days, I wondered if I would lose my faith when he died. At some point in each of our faith journeys, we all must come to the realization that God is not "good" in that warm and fuzzy kind of way that we think about "good." God is good, all the time. And all the time, God is good. And yet women miscarry, teenagers kill themselves, and the pain of this world is often unbearable. When my friend died, I was devastated and heartbroken - but within hours I knew that I would be alright. I remember frantically searching for a hymnal - and yelling at my friend who graduated from the music school with a gold star for not being able to play it on the first try. I desperately wanted to sing Hymn of Promise.
"In our death, a resurrection; at the last, a victory, unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see."
I understood that my late friend could see that victory - and if he could see that victory, then it must be true. I'm certain that this is the kind of circular logic that any atheist would love to get his hands around to try and choke the life out of my faith, but I'm ever so content with it. I realized the great truth of faith that day. I learned a lesson in hope. I learned what God's goodness really feels like.
I feel like I can't begin a conversation about my theology of mission without beginning at the story of this phone call and my friend's death. I don't want to talk about this theme unless it's understood that I'm just a person. I'm a missionary, a teacher, a pastor by some accounts, a translator, and a writer - but none of those things matter if I'm not a human, too. This is my authentic voice, and it is paramount that as I begin writing about mission theology, that it is understood in this context. Over the next few months, I want to explore some themes of mission theology - but I want them to be read with a grain of salt. Please read them with an understanding of who I am and where I come from.
Thanks, Michael.
I don't think that any missionary training class prepares you for the death of a loved one.
I remember visiting a church to hear a missionary speak once, and this was years after I had committed my life to serving the Lord somewhere without air-condition (oh, little did I know at the time, how worthless air-condition could be) but years before I had actually gone - and I remember realizing, as I entered this particular church for the first time, that I could pick out the missionary. He was the most spiritual one there. He was the one bouncing in his pew and clapping his way through every song. His slide show was predictably missionary-esque and sported more than a hundred photos of "this is also the jungle." This was the first time that I grew emotionally uncomfortable with the term missionary - it hasn't been the last.
Every time I have witnessed "missionary compounds" high on the hill over the unwashed masses, I have felt a pang of shame at the M-word. Every time my place of privilege has opened a door, I wonder if I am doing the right thing by going through it. Every time a well-intentioned old woman asks me if I have to learn Ukrainian because "they can't speak English there?" I cringe. Missionary math exists and is a real thing, which is real.
I am a child of the King, but I was also raised by the Empire - and it is hard to remember this sometimes. It's a never ending Kramer vs. Kramer situation, really. My value system has to come from somewhere, right? I was taught that drinking alcohol is a sin, but clearly this isn't what the Bible says - so I take great precaution in accepting "biblical truths literally" but I see the way that "liberal academic scholarship" just wrings the life out of faith. As a red-headed step child of the empire, I must be especially careful about the way I treat wealth, military power, colonization, sin-scales, and skin-color. As a missionary, I need a constant reminder that God's kingdom and the empire I come from are not one-and-the-same.
In my college days, I read a number of biographies of missionaries. My favorite was about the ministry of my French tutors and friends. The Schultz's went into the jungle in the 1950s and grew old and unfashionable there. Janine emerged some decades later still wearing the same wool skirt she entered in. John only had hair on his ears when they returned to the states. I loved their biography, because it exuded the same humility that they did. John never boasted about his fluency in seven languages. Janine just pardoned my French constantly in class, and loved me in spite of myself.
I read another missionary biography once. It was filled with hubris and pride. It was a painful read. No one was as satisfied with this missionaries' righteousness and accomplishments as he was. He unnecessarily risked the lives of his wife and children on multiple occasions - refusing the convenient travel arraigned by his mission board and eventually being air-rescued by the military; he proudly boasted that God's will was done.
Mother Teresa constantly insisted that she was God's littlest. Every time that someone lifts up "missionary" as something special and hyper-spiritual, I want to look them in the eyes. I want them to see how painful it can be to live as a missionary. I want them to see how ordinary I am. I want them to see how helpless I am. I want them to see how much I struggle with faith - with the very concept of faith - every day. I want them to see me - not some stone statue saint on a pedestal - but me - just Michael, little Michael who crawled on his belly under all of the pews during worship, big Michael who can't ever seem to conjugate anything right and always talks like he's speaking around a Big Mac. I'm so little and flawed and lost.
When my friend was in his final days, I wondered if I would lose my faith when he died. At some point in each of our faith journeys, we all must come to the realization that God is not "good" in that warm and fuzzy kind of way that we think about "good." God is good, all the time. And all the time, God is good. And yet women miscarry, teenagers kill themselves, and the pain of this world is often unbearable. When my friend died, I was devastated and heartbroken - but within hours I knew that I would be alright. I remember frantically searching for a hymnal - and yelling at my friend who graduated from the music school with a gold star for not being able to play it on the first try. I desperately wanted to sing Hymn of Promise.
"In our death, a resurrection; at the last, a victory, unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see."
I understood that my late friend could see that victory - and if he could see that victory, then it must be true. I'm certain that this is the kind of circular logic that any atheist would love to get his hands around to try and choke the life out of my faith, but I'm ever so content with it. I realized the great truth of faith that day. I learned a lesson in hope. I learned what God's goodness really feels like.
I feel like I can't begin a conversation about my theology of mission without beginning at the story of this phone call and my friend's death. I don't want to talk about this theme unless it's understood that I'm just a person. I'm a missionary, a teacher, a pastor by some accounts, a translator, and a writer - but none of those things matter if I'm not a human, too. This is my authentic voice, and it is paramount that as I begin writing about mission theology, that it is understood in this context. Over the next few months, I want to explore some themes of mission theology - but I want them to be read with a grain of salt. Please read them with an understanding of who I am and where I come from.
Thanks, Michael.
Thursday, January 2, 2014
New Year
It was wonderful to spend New Year's Eve on the Maidan in Kyiv. By coincidence, my friends told me that their apartment would be empty for the New Year holiday and that they would gladly leave me their keys. I couldn't pass up the opportunity to spend the New Year holiday in Kyiv and to see the Revolution.
Ukrainians celebrate New Year 2014 in Euromaidan from Maria Komar - photokubik.com on Vimeo.
Together with 500,000 friends, we sang the national anthem in an attempt to get into the Guinness Book of World Records. A persistent problem of the revolution has been that the Russian and current Ukrainian government officials (and even some of the press) are desperate to downplay the events in Kyiv. On Sunday's rally, it was wall to wall people in an area the size of a football stadium, and newspapers reported that "a few thousand" people showed up.
Really, words cannot express how truly beautiful the Maidan is. There is something so astoundingly beautiful about hundreds of thousands of people standing up for their rights and for the rights of others. Only a few were beaten and imprisoned (although that list continues to slowly grow - a journalist was dragged from her car and savagely beaten on Christmas Eve, and people are being taken to court for such ridiculous reasons as Facebooking about the Revolution and holding pictures of the President upside down) yet all who stand on the Maidan stand for those people.
I hope that you continue to keep Ukraine and our Revolution in your prayers.
Ukrainians celebrate New Year 2014 in Euromaidan from Maria Komar - photokubik.com on Vimeo.
Together with 500,000 friends, we sang the national anthem in an attempt to get into the Guinness Book of World Records. A persistent problem of the revolution has been that the Russian and current Ukrainian government officials (and even some of the press) are desperate to downplay the events in Kyiv. On Sunday's rally, it was wall to wall people in an area the size of a football stadium, and newspapers reported that "a few thousand" people showed up.
Really, words cannot express how truly beautiful the Maidan is. There is something so astoundingly beautiful about hundreds of thousands of people standing up for their rights and for the rights of others. Only a few were beaten and imprisoned (although that list continues to slowly grow - a journalist was dragged from her car and savagely beaten on Christmas Eve, and people are being taken to court for such ridiculous reasons as Facebooking about the Revolution and holding pictures of the President upside down) yet all who stand on the Maidan stand for those people.
I hope that you continue to keep Ukraine and our Revolution in your prayers.
Here I am with the symbol of this revolution, the Yolka. On Bloody Saturday, the government officials scrambled for a legitimate reason for violently dispersing the crowd: they said that they had to put up the Christmas tree.
One famous Ukrainian musician quickly took to twitter to ask why the Ukrainian people would want a Christmas tree in a pool of their own blood. When the protesters took back the Maidan after several hours, the Christmas tree hadn't been completed yet. The protesters covered the structure in flags and banners. Near the center is a banner with the photo of the former Prime Minister, Yulia Tymoshenko, as of today she has been a political prisoner for 879 days.
The revolution continues. I'm heading back to Kyiv later this week or next. I hope that your New Year was also special.
Thursday, December 19, 2013
Some pictures
These are pictures from the month of December. They're not really in any particular order. Life is busy, and sometimes I forget to post pictures and posts as often as I should. Here are a few pictures to keep you up to date with our Pilgrims.
Our youngest Pilgrims, Marta, plays with a stuffed bear that her great-aunt Debbie sent from America for Christmas. How thoughtful of Debbie!
This is the picture that we didn't use for our Thank You cards. I love how silly our staff and their families can be - I love working with these people and value their dedication so much. It's great to be part of such an amazing team!
We start and finish Pilgrims in small groups. It helps with our space issue, because at the end when things are a bit more crowded, we can use both rooms. We broke along gender lines this night, but thankfully Pastor Volodya's wife was willing to mix things up a bit! At the end, the small groups pray together to end our time.
The girl's group!
And a few of the guys even joined them - even though this looks like a middle school dance - we all like each other!
At Pilgrim's this week we learned how to search for things in the Bible, how to guess where a scripture might be found, and how to remember the order of the books of the Bible. A lot of our new students don't know how to find the scripture, so this was fun and helpful. Do you use God Eats Pop Corn/General Electric Power Company to remember Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Collossians? Well, that acronym doesn't work in Ukrainian, so today the students came up with an acronym of their own - it translates to "God Energetically Paints Everyone" ... which is a really cool way to remember the order of these epistles. It's awesome to have such creative students.
Over Christmas break, the four staff members are in competition against the rest of the Pilgrims to see which group will read more verses of the Bible! It should be a great challenge!
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
Some photos
The protests continue in Ukraine. It is hard to keep up to date with all that is happening. Things are moving quickly, and yet things are moving so slowly. Some days are scary and some days are victorious and some days are both. Here are a few pictures of the protests here in Lviv.
Almost every evening thousands of people gather to support the protesters in Kiv.
One of our Pilgrims and her friend.
Children play in the snow. In Lviv, whole families come together to show their support.
Sometimes we just stand together and watch the news on the giant screen. The people of Lviv love their country so much.
Saturday, November 23, 2013
Protests in Ukraine
This article from the BBC is well written and unbiased.
Only a few days before Ukraine was to sign important agreements with the EU, the Ukrainian government has halted the process. The European Union considers Yulia Tymoshenko, the former Prime Minister - currently serving a long prison sentence, to be a political prisoner. Some reports claim that the EU is demanding that she be allowed to receive medical care in Europe and some report a demand for her release.
Thousands of people, young and old, are crowding the streets in protest against the decision to halt the European Integration process. Mass rallies are happening all over Ukraine. On Sunday there will be a mass rally in the capitol city's main square. Allegedly the government has stopped buses from Lviv to Kyiv and has stopped selling train tickets. The government fears mass protests like those of the Orange Revolution 9 years ago this week.
This weekend, across Ukraine, people will commemorate the forced famine of 1932-33. Between 6 and 10 million Ukrainians died as a result of the forced famine. My best friend's great-grandfather led a caravan of 40 wagons of food to the border and was turned away by the Soviet authorities who insisted that there was no famine. The forced famine of the Ukrainian people is perhaps the largest act of genocide the world has ever seen - and it is almost entirely lost to history. This weighs heavy on the hearts of many Ukrainians as they fight for further integration with the European Union.
This is a complicated and difficult situation, and I am always afraid that perhaps I do not understand everything that is going on. Ukrainian politics are messy and complicated - and I generally stay almost completely neutral. I'm not Ukrainian. Although I love this country and translate poetry from Ukrainian to English, I am an outsider. My students are so passionate and so united about this cause, that I simply must join with them. They truly see no other path forward for their future. For some of my friends, EU integration is their only chance of a normal and productive life.
I will be at the central square in Lviv often during this time. I will be showing my support and my solidarity with my students and friends. Please pray for safety for all involved and for a peaceful resolution. Some are calling for another revolution. The most common thought that I hear among my friends is that if "we start this, we must finish it." People were left disheartened after the Orange Revolution fell apart following the global economic collapse and party infighting. If it comes to revolution, may it be a peaceful one.
During the rally, many ordinary people stepped up to speak. Lviv's mayor spoke eloquently. The rector of the University, Vokarchuk, who is being forced out for political reasons spoke beautiful words. But it was the common folk who really touched my heart. One man stepped up with a very strong speech impediment. He spoke directly from his heart and brought many of us to tears with his words. This has been an emotional week, and there is certainly more to come. Please keep Ukraine in your thoughts and prayers. I will try to post often and keep people up to date on what is happening here.
- Michael Airgood
Only a few days before Ukraine was to sign important agreements with the EU, the Ukrainian government has halted the process. The European Union considers Yulia Tymoshenko, the former Prime Minister - currently serving a long prison sentence, to be a political prisoner. Some reports claim that the EU is demanding that she be allowed to receive medical care in Europe and some report a demand for her release.
Thousands of people, young and old, are crowding the streets in protest against the decision to halt the European Integration process. Mass rallies are happening all over Ukraine. On Sunday there will be a mass rally in the capitol city's main square. Allegedly the government has stopped buses from Lviv to Kyiv and has stopped selling train tickets. The government fears mass protests like those of the Orange Revolution 9 years ago this week.
This weekend, across Ukraine, people will commemorate the forced famine of 1932-33. Between 6 and 10 million Ukrainians died as a result of the forced famine. My best friend's great-grandfather led a caravan of 40 wagons of food to the border and was turned away by the Soviet authorities who insisted that there was no famine. The forced famine of the Ukrainian people is perhaps the largest act of genocide the world has ever seen - and it is almost entirely lost to history. This weighs heavy on the hearts of many Ukrainians as they fight for further integration with the European Union.
This is a complicated and difficult situation, and I am always afraid that perhaps I do not understand everything that is going on. Ukrainian politics are messy and complicated - and I generally stay almost completely neutral. I'm not Ukrainian. Although I love this country and translate poetry from Ukrainian to English, I am an outsider. My students are so passionate and so united about this cause, that I simply must join with them. They truly see no other path forward for their future. For some of my friends, EU integration is their only chance of a normal and productive life.
I will be at the central square in Lviv often during this time. I will be showing my support and my solidarity with my students and friends. Please pray for safety for all involved and for a peaceful resolution. Some are calling for another revolution. The most common thought that I hear among my friends is that if "we start this, we must finish it." People were left disheartened after the Orange Revolution fell apart following the global economic collapse and party infighting. If it comes to revolution, may it be a peaceful one.
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| students gather to remember those who died in the forced famine |
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| The rally in Lviv |
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| Thousands gathered near the monument of Taras Shevchenko |
During the rally, many ordinary people stepped up to speak. Lviv's mayor spoke eloquently. The rector of the University, Vokarchuk, who is being forced out for political reasons spoke beautiful words. But it was the common folk who really touched my heart. One man stepped up with a very strong speech impediment. He spoke directly from his heart and brought many of us to tears with his words. This has been an emotional week, and there is certainly more to come. Please keep Ukraine in your thoughts and prayers. I will try to post often and keep people up to date on what is happening here.
- Michael Airgood
Monday, November 18, 2013
Introversion, ministry, and self-care.
I'm an introvert.
I don't know why this simple fact is so hard for people to understand. I'm shy around new people, especially when I have a crush. There are times when I'm happy to be in a small group and times when it terrifies me - it depends on a wide variety of factors. My job requires that I be bold and up front and outgoing and I do that to the best of my ability. I'm terrified of speaking in front of crowds, and I'm exhausted after preaching.
This is the nature of being an introvert in ministry.
Extroverts draw their energy from the crowd. It recharges them to be around people. Introverts give their energy away to the crowd. We have to go away by ourselves to recharge.
Introverts in ministry chose to give of ourselves all day. I'm in ministry because it's a calling. I've explained to God hundreds of times all of the reasons why I'm not very good at it and why I'm not qualified to be in ministry, but I haven't changed God's mind on the matter yet. I keep getting called to be in ministry - in uncomfortable and painful places, with people with whom I disagree, in situations that scare me, in languages that I'll never fully understand, with people whose problems are far greater than my own, and in ways that I never expect - the call to ministry continues.
As an introvert, each interaction takes a small bit of me and makes it no longer me. You give one spoonful away at a time, and hope that the bottle doesn't run out before new supplies arrive. You make it through the sermon and you collapse and try to recover.
I love people. I love old people and teenagers and children and conservatives and liberals and Ukrainian students. I love people, and I love being in ministry with people. I love leading worship and I love preaching and I would never trade the late night conversations and the impromptu marriage counseling sessions for anything. I love being in ministry.
And ministry is messy. And John Wesley charged us to keep the world as our parish and my ministry has never fit inside of church walls. And a person in ministry's work is never done. It's never finished. There is always something more that can be done, that should be done, that needs to get done.
But that is why Jesus is the Savior and we are the saved.
As an introvert in ministry, I have to step aside and make time and space for me to recharge. I need to talk with a close friend about non-ministry things and sort through all the thoughts in my head and my heart.
And this is ok.
This is the hardest part about self-care: you have to give yourself permission to take care of yourself. For me, I have to shut down and walk away from the crowd and be alone or spend time with someone who understands my boundaries. I have to not answer questions about English and not speak Ukrainian sometimes.
Self-care is vital in ministry because without it you don't stay in ministry very long. There is no way to keep everyone happy - and as long as that is your goal you will not be in ministry very long. Self-care is about realizing that Jesus calls real people into ministry. We aren't machines and a call to ministry doesn't make us machines. We are people with feelings and emotions and triggers and baggage - and that is ok. As a person in ministry, you need to take care of other people - and yourself.
The world is your parish, but you are your parish, too.
While you certainly should have a good network of great clergy friends and mentors, you need to give yourself to permission to take your own advice and find some rest.
When I have less to give, I need to recharge more often.
I'm not making any excuses and I'm not making any apologies - I'm just stating some facts to help people understand. Ministry is a wonderful journey. Introverts make tremendous pastors and missionaries. Some of the best ministry people I know are deeply introverted. We need to make space for all people and all giftings in ministry. As long as God calls all types of people, we need to find room for all types of people.
Introverts included.
I don't know why this simple fact is so hard for people to understand. I'm shy around new people, especially when I have a crush. There are times when I'm happy to be in a small group and times when it terrifies me - it depends on a wide variety of factors. My job requires that I be bold and up front and outgoing and I do that to the best of my ability. I'm terrified of speaking in front of crowds, and I'm exhausted after preaching.
This is the nature of being an introvert in ministry.
Extroverts draw their energy from the crowd. It recharges them to be around people. Introverts give their energy away to the crowd. We have to go away by ourselves to recharge.
Introverts in ministry chose to give of ourselves all day. I'm in ministry because it's a calling. I've explained to God hundreds of times all of the reasons why I'm not very good at it and why I'm not qualified to be in ministry, but I haven't changed God's mind on the matter yet. I keep getting called to be in ministry - in uncomfortable and painful places, with people with whom I disagree, in situations that scare me, in languages that I'll never fully understand, with people whose problems are far greater than my own, and in ways that I never expect - the call to ministry continues.
As an introvert, each interaction takes a small bit of me and makes it no longer me. You give one spoonful away at a time, and hope that the bottle doesn't run out before new supplies arrive. You make it through the sermon and you collapse and try to recover.
I love people. I love old people and teenagers and children and conservatives and liberals and Ukrainian students. I love people, and I love being in ministry with people. I love leading worship and I love preaching and I would never trade the late night conversations and the impromptu marriage counseling sessions for anything. I love being in ministry.
And ministry is messy. And John Wesley charged us to keep the world as our parish and my ministry has never fit inside of church walls. And a person in ministry's work is never done. It's never finished. There is always something more that can be done, that should be done, that needs to get done.
But that is why Jesus is the Savior and we are the saved.
As an introvert in ministry, I have to step aside and make time and space for me to recharge. I need to talk with a close friend about non-ministry things and sort through all the thoughts in my head and my heart.
And this is ok.
This is the hardest part about self-care: you have to give yourself permission to take care of yourself. For me, I have to shut down and walk away from the crowd and be alone or spend time with someone who understands my boundaries. I have to not answer questions about English and not speak Ukrainian sometimes.
Self-care is vital in ministry because without it you don't stay in ministry very long. There is no way to keep everyone happy - and as long as that is your goal you will not be in ministry very long. Self-care is about realizing that Jesus calls real people into ministry. We aren't machines and a call to ministry doesn't make us machines. We are people with feelings and emotions and triggers and baggage - and that is ok. As a person in ministry, you need to take care of other people - and yourself.
The world is your parish, but you are your parish, too.
While you certainly should have a good network of great clergy friends and mentors, you need to give yourself to permission to take your own advice and find some rest.
When I have less to give, I need to recharge more often.
I'm not making any excuses and I'm not making any apologies - I'm just stating some facts to help people understand. Ministry is a wonderful journey. Introverts make tremendous pastors and missionaries. Some of the best ministry people I know are deeply introverted. We need to make space for all people and all giftings in ministry. As long as God calls all types of people, we need to find room for all types of people.
Introverts included.
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